Feeling Joy and Letting Go of Worry (It's More Important Than You May Think!)

Life is not meant to be heavy or hard. In spite of what we may think. We often feel like we’re supposed to worry about things, and I mean worry all the time. Like if we don’t worry, then everything might fall apart..the other shoe might drop. I should know. I was a chronic worrier. I worried about what people thought of me, worried about what college I would get into, worried about my boyfriends, worried about getting good grades, worried about having enough money, worried about losing a race in track. Basically I worried about anything and everything.

 

I remember after I first met Chris (my now-husband), I told him I couldn’t totally relax with him and let my guard down because I was afraid that I couldn’t. Because I was used to getting my hopes up in relationships and then having something happen that meant it was not going to last. It was such a sad pattern to be in. He kindly reassured me that this was different (and thankfully I believed him – it took some time but I did eventually accept that it was for real!). And he was right.

 

Does this ever happen to you? Do you ever let a past situation dictate your current experience? Of course you do! We all do. Something happens to us in our lives, and then anytime we get into a situation that is remotely similar, our memories are triggered about what happened before and our brains instinctively believe that the same thing is going to happen again (check out the Daily Om for a great article on this!). So what happens is that we re-live our past over and over again. And we wonder why we have the same patterns in our lives. Because we are literally creating them again with our own thoughts! “Worrying is using your imagination to create more of what you don’t want,” as some very wise person once said.

 

In my guidance sessions (now some summer discounts on these!) and workshops, I often do an exercise I call “The Hidden Stories of the Ego Self” with people. It’s a way to explore what’s happened to us (or what we were told) in the past. We try to identify what these stories we tell ourselves are first. And then we get curious. Do we really believe that the exact same thing is going to happen again? Or that because we were told something in the past by a person we respected that this statement still is true.. all the time? Do we want to continue to believe that? 

 

If you find yourself in the same, unhappy patterns in your life (same type of relationships, same type of job situation, same health problems, etc.), try asking yourself if there is an unconscious thought that you’re having that is actually making the situation worse. If there is a hidden story somewhere that part of you really believes is true and clings onto for dear life.


We have tens of thousands of thoughts per day, and often, most of them are quite negative. If you believe, as I do, that we are subconsciously creating our own realities with our thoughts every day, then imagine if we were to replace the negative ones with positive ones! What could we bring about in our lives? (I have tried it. It takes practice and it’s not just about the thoughts themselves.. but with patience, trust, and aligning your vibration with your soul purpose... it works!)

 

I recently went through a spell of negative thinking. It was so heavy that it started affecting my everyday life and emotional wellbeing. Luckily, I knew that it was not really “me,” and I knew what to do about it. I wrote about it (I did my own Inner Critic exercise to pick apart and separate from my negative thoughts – and hey! I’m doing a workshop on that next week!), listened to some sound healing music (and.. hey! – I’m doing a workshop with my friend Ben Carroll with singing bowls and meditations and writing exercises next month!). Then I got some help from my own Divine guides, and from a gifted intuitive. This last part is what really helped. 

 

And things shifted. My favorite online journal Wake-Up World published another article of mine on personal transformation and nature (did you know they have 3 million followers? Holy cow!). I got lots of new clients. Checks written out to me started coming in literally in one week. My husband got a raise at work. It was like magic.

 

I also learned something else. I know that it’s really hard to stop worrying… especially with all that’s happening in the world now (but you can turn off the negative news! Take action and help make the world better in the meantime!). But, we can do something else.

 

And that something else is to ENJOY life. That’s right. To find joy in each moment. To live as if we were on vacation. To pretend we’re a 5 year old kid running through a sprinkler and having a watermelon-seed spitting contest. To go for a walk in the park in the middle of a workday. To imagine that you’re on your deathbed and wonder if you’ll be so glad that you spent so much of your life worrying about retirement or your job… or that you made time every day to have fun, just to enjoy life!  

 

This is important not just because having fun makes you feel good. It’s actually about your personal vibration and your attracting what you want in your life. When you are in a joyful place, you emit a high-frequency wave (like a radio wave). We don’t see this with our eyes but it’s there. And if you have a vision (you do, right?) of your ideal future (which probably exists also at a beautiful high frequency), then you want your current vibrational frequency to match that of your future one so you get there faster! Like does attract like. It's not as simple as all that (the "law of attraction" is only one of many Divine laws - including free will, soul purpose, etc.), but it's a start. (Side note: want to "attract" other like-minded souls into your life? Join us for a free online workshop on June 15th getting support on your spiritual path – and an opportunity to join a regular membership group - next week! And meet up with some of us in person at a beautiful outdoor park on June 22nd!)

 

Of course when we decide to stop worrying (you can actually decide to do things and make them happen with that simple decision followed by action!) our negative minds will tell us we’re being irresponsible and we should be working harder… or else things will fall apart! But ask yourself… will they really? Will going for a walk in the afternoon really make you lose your job? Will stopping the worry about having enough money really mean that your whole life will fall apart?


I’m lucky enough to have two young children, and they help me remember to bring joy into my life. I like to do cartwheels with them, jump on trampolines whenever I see them (I did this before I had kids too!), run up a slide on a playground, laugh about silly things and make funny faces/sounds and yes, I did run through the sprinkler with them as you can see here in this photo.

 

Even if you don’t have children in your life (although you could probably find some to hang out with!), find something that lightens your soul. Spend some time with friends, relaxing, hanging out, enjoying food. There is a reason that some other countries have higher levels of happiness. They simply don’t worry like we do.

 

Stop allowing the mainstream media to indoctrinate you into believing that you have to worry about and be afraid of everything – this disease, that war/terrorist attack, the economy, not having enough for retirement, needing to take a pill to get better, feeling like you have to have the latest thing that your co-worker/neighbor/friend has.

 

You see, the fear-based onslaught that comes in TV commercials and the news keeps us scared, buying what we don’t need and working endless hours because we think we have to. This current system is not helping us so we must have the courage to break free. We must stop letting it influence us so much. And then our true freedom will begin!

 

So live a little. Get outside and run as fast as you can. Jump in the ocean. Sing out loud at the top of your lungs.

 

Your soul is begging you to and your life will be better if you do.

 

P.S. If you’re around Portland, Maine this summer, stay tuned for a whole bunch of workshops I’m going to be doing in July and August! Reach out to me if you want the exact dates!

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Rachel White

A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. 

Working Out the Stuck Energy

There is some strange energy in the air. I've noticed that when I go to public places, people are tense, on edge. Not necessarily rude, but there is a lot of pent-up energy that needs to be processed. How can we do that? By getting quiet, by slowing down, by pausing.

For me personally, I've decided to do this. To go into receiving and reflecting mode. Intentionally taking time out to focus on my breath and be more passive. To pause and listen to what my inner guidance is telling me.

We often are in active mode, trying to make things happen for ourselves or for others. This is the divine masculine, which is the overriding energy that we've been taught. And it is important, but it's gotten out of control, in society and in our lives.

As with everything in life, balance is needed. What about the divine feminine? Using our intuition and our feelings to receive guidance and important information? For too long this has been cast aside as unimportant or not real. And that is tragic. For we need this healing energy more than ever now.

We are in a limbo period, between an age of separation and an age of unity, and it is resulting in confusion and even anxiety! Much of this has a lot to do with the flaring out of the old, broken system, which is freaking out right now because it is losing its grip on us. It's important to understand that our emotions are manipulated by the mainstream media to produce fear, anger and to keep us divided and distracted from the greed and corruption and even worse (and all this Russia nonsense? I believe it's just being invented to mask the far more nefarious deeds being done by political and financial higher-ups!). Want some alternative news (despite what the mainstream media will you about this being "fake" - another smoke and mirrors tactic - here are some sources to choose from).

So what can we do about this? We must have the courage to release ourselves, to break free from what's holding us back. The illusions that we have to work constantly to just retire someday (maybe) and keep paying bill after bill, debt after debt, all add up to modern day wage servitude. But it doesn't need to be this way.

With all the strange energy, causing us a lot of tension and "stuckness," an opportunity to move some of that energy out of your body and mind and soul, would be so freeing.

Writing about it takes it out of you, and helps you separate from whatever false story you're carrying. Doing a guided meditation to tap into the subconscious (your Higher self) keeps that negative Ego voice at bay and helps you see where you can go without the heaviness or the fear! There is a lot of that holding some of us back from our true passions.. now is the time to release this!

If you're local, you might want to join my friend Heather Nichols and me at Stones And Stuff this Sunday evening for a chance to get out of this rut. Because it will keep eating away at you until you make a change! 

It's not fun to paddle upstream is it? If you are, give yourself permission to try doing things differently this time. Things won't fall apart if you do. Try to explore and release that fear, because it might be holding you back.

Notice when your actions or thoughts are rooted in a fear, and try to separate from them. Notice what feels good in your body and do more of that. And this video might help you connect with your energetic centers (chakras)!

What a relief right? You'll know when the time comes to step out again. Listen to that gentle whisper (Higher Self) and not to the loud, nagging voice (Ego). In the end, you will be glad you did (99% guarantee).

Of course I will keep reaching, taking action and making plans, but I also will be using my feelings and intuition to guide me, to reflect and align with the natural flow the currents of the universe are carrying me. I hope the same can come to pass for you.

P.S. I'm still offering half-hour and hour-long intuitive readings - get in touch if you're interested in hearing from your divine guides and angelic beings with some information they want you to know! And... if you'd like to connect with others on this journey of alignment with your true, spiritual selves, you can explore this opportunity to be a part of a community of like-minded souls like you! 

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Rachel White

A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. 

Excavating My Roots (or how Personal Transformation is Mirrored in the Natural World)

In the hope of growing our own food (and because I just really like gardening), I decided to make a portion of our backyard into a vegetable garden. I’ve found a spot that seems to get the most sun, since we’re surrounded by trees, and have begun the process of digging up the weeds and roots there.

While pulling up small roots to make room for the vegetable seedlings, I noticed something. The small ones would often lead to bigger, more intricate and twisted roots deep in the dirt. They would wind around each other sometimes in tangled webs, with each sinew leading to another in some deeper, unknown part of the soil. I would break one off, knowing that a piece of another was still stuck in the soil... something I would have to deal with later. But at least I had gotten a good section of it out and taken care of the task at hand.

During this excavation process, I was reminded of the internal work I’ve been doing in my own life. I’d been learning about cord-cutting, the energetic separation of ties that bind us to other people and objects in our lives. Or connections that are regularly established when people interact emotionally. When based in love, the cord is vibrant, healthy one. When based in conflict or fear (or co-dependency), the cord is darker and heavier, like an unwanted root that needs to be pulled out or cut. As with an invasive weed, if we just cut off the base with shears, we take care of it for the time being. But there will still be more work to do, more self-defeating beliefs will still pop up later. Instead, we can take some time, digging in deep to find the source of that root, clearing the dirt around it, creating some space to find the extent of it. And then, when all that is done, we gently pull the root up until it comes out once and for all. We must spend some time examining what we no longer want to carry with us to begin the process of intentionally separating from what is dragging us down.

In my own life, I have been cutting a lot of my own rooted, unhealthy cords. Not just cords to other people, but cords to my own past. To beliefs that I have been carrying with me for a long time. What I like to call false stories. And I even have come to understand that some of these stories were connected to other lifetimes of persecution. So that leads to my current fears of being out in the open with my true self (of “being seen”).

I have been told for many years that I can and should become a psychic, or even a medium. But I was scared of that.. of what it would entail. I have experienced some darkness on the other side, and it was not fun. And while I have learned to operate only in Divine light, which protects me at all times, those fears are still hanging out at times.

But I believe that I can help people with this, so I am opening up to it now. It is easiest through my dreams, getting regular visitations from deceased acquaintances or loved ones. Often passed-over souls who ask me to communicate a message to a living friend. I knew that my spirit was connecting with theirs, so I would do their bidding and help provide some comfort to their living relative/friend in waking life.

But actually connect with spirits in my daily reality? No way. That's for witches with crystal balls. I would be laughed at, mocked and maybe even worse.

I’ve recently realized that I need to overcome these fears so I can come into who I really am. Who I have been for many years. To help people see what their Ego selves may prevent them from seeing. To understand what potential lies deep within them. To support them in accessing their true beings so their inner light can shine in a world that badly needs it.

And how does this connect with Nature? Nature is my teacher. Nature is helping me heal.

When I dig in the dirt, I forget about my worries. I am making the soil ready for my baby seedlings to thrive. When I dig in the dirt, I feel more connected with the Earth. I notice that the truth about being human is similar to the all that exists in Nature. When I dig in the dirt, I learn about myself and what I want to uncover and excavate.

If we could just look to the natural state of things, we could see how the laws of Nature also apply to the inner workings of our lives, of our personal growth. Abundance is for us all, water flows freely, leaves grow abundantly. Money is a form of energy, but is only one form of abundance. If we can let our attachment to a piece of paper go, we can understand that abundance comes in many forms (friends, good health, food, and yes, even money too).

Change doesn’t happen overnight, in spite of our modern society’s addiction to the quick-fix solution – “Isn’t there something I can take for that?”. Plants don’t grow overnight either – a seed is planted, and it needs sun, water, and soil to grow. So when making transformations in our lives, we need to practice patience, and make sure the right ingredients are there for our own growth (like gratitude, trust, learning lessons and taking risks).  If something didn’t work, we don’t just give up and never try to grow anything again – no, maybe we need more sun this time, or better soil. Or more support from friends, or more mind-nourishment (meditation).

As part of our paradigm shift into an age of unity, no longer in an age of separation, we are learning to re-establish our connection with the Earth, with Nature. We can learn from the natural rhythms of Nature. And not just for our own nourishment and safety. We can heed the lessons from the Earth, from the wisdom and qualities of animals (as spirit animals who come into our lives with lessons to teach us – the owl, with its eyes seeing clearly in the dark of night, is the spirit that sees into people’s souls, through illusions and pulls out the uncomfortable truth– the guide for my life). We can connect what nature teaches us to our lives in countless ways. Personal growth over time like the flower blossoming, trusting in moving through our lives like the current of the flowing river, and patiently working through our stuck beliefs like digging up the entirety of roots deeply entrenched in soil.  

For me, it is when we intentionally re-connect with the Earth that we can heal and begin to grow into that which we truly are.

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Rachel White

A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. 

Releasing Those Bad Feelings

Sometimes it's just not possible to think positive. We feel rotten. We feel negative. Just the thought of "positive thinking" brings on feelings of annoyance or even anger. 

This is part of being human, experiencing feelings that are what we might call "negative." They're feelings we don't want. Frustration, sadness, regret, confusion, exhaustion, guilt, fear, worry, jealousy, loneliness, grief, anger... the list goes on and on. 

 

We often do something strange, though, when we start feel emotions that don't feel very good. Our tendency is to try to avoid them. To distract ourselves from them. We don't like these feelings; we want them to just go away. So we might pretend they're not there and find something that feels better (because we just want to feel GOOD all the time, right?). We might eat some food to comfort us, get a tall glass of wine, zone out in front of the TV or on Facebook for hours. This might work for a little while, but avoiding our emotions only works for so long. We might even seek out unhealthy ways (drugs or other harmful, addictive behaviors) to cope. If we feel persistent negative emotions that we continually ignore and push away, over time we build up stress in our bodies that can manifest as sickness. Our bodies don't lie, and will always show us what we have been not wanting to see. 

So, what can be done? Well, to start, stop avoiding your feelings. If you feel something that doesn't feel good, take a moment to explore these feelings. Really wallow in the misery for a while. But don't just spin and re-live the past over and over.  You want to develop what I call "an observer mentality" of your emotions. State your emotions aloud. Write them down. Release them physically by working them out of your body (running, yelling, crying, energy work, etc.). When you do this, you begin, gradually, to separate from your emotions. You might be feeling overwhelmed and confused, but you are a not a confused, overwhelmed person. You might be feeling sad and lonely, but you are not a sad and lonely person. All emotions are temporary. 

And how do I know about this? Well, I write about what I personally experience. As you may know, I work pretty hard at maintaining a positive energetic vibration (focusing and dwelling in a positive mental place). But this only works part of the time. Sometimes things happen to us that we don't plan. It's part of our learning lessons in life. I had been feeling some negative emotions recently, so I decided to take some time to explore my emotions. I swam in their waters for a bit by writing about them (and I happen to have created a Processing Negative Emotions writing tool you can access here... and you have to read some nice stuff people have said about me too).

After I did this, actually while I was writing (but not just writing about my feelings in a spiral of drama, really targeting the feeling and investigating it), I started to feel that they were losing their power over me. I started to see them merely as feelings I was experiencing. And I began to see some light at the end, some hope. I felt better and even got some ideas out of it. So try it out... it might just help you reach that next level where you can begin to manifest what you want in your life...

But if it's not enough, and you're looking to really release some of that stuck energy (and you happen to be near Portland, Maine), check out an upcoming workshop on May 21 I'm doing on that exact topic with Heather Nichols of Stones and Stuff (it's called Transform Your Stuck Energy: Release Your False Story and Step Into Your Magic).

And to help you access Divine guidance in your life (and even help others do the same)? Yes, there's a workshop for that too. This Saturday (May 6) morning, on Deepening Your Intuition: Enhance Your Psychic Ability and Use Your Skills!, with Graham Connolly, a renowned psychic/medium here in Portland, Maine. I'm so excited to be partnering with Graham to help people take their intuitive work (you'll practice doing psychic readings for each other!) to the next level. Here's a short Facebook live video we did to tell you more about it!

In the meantime, if you're looking for some long-term help and support on your spiritual path, get in touch with me about your interest in applying for monthly membership to the Soulful Work Community, with in-person and virtual gatherings, online course access and more... 

P.S. If you're still reading, I'm expanding my repertoire into offering intuitive readings to help people connect with spirit guides and angelic beings (we all have them!). If you're interested in trying this out, I'm offering (for a short period of time) some deeply discounted virtual sessions - $40/half-hour. Get in touch (rhortonwhite@soulfulworkconsulting.com) if you're interested!  Wishing you release, peace and hope until then...

 

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Rachel White

A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. 

Coping with the Monotony

I live in Maine. Around this time of year (late March), people get pretty tired of winter. It is technically spring, but there is still snow (some of it pretty dirty and gross) hanging around. This time of early spring is a strange time in Maine.. the sun is out, but the snow can still come. It can also be a difficult time for many people who feel like they're "supposed" to feel better now that it's getting warmer, but they still don't.

I recently talked to some clients/students and they shared with me that happiness is one of their greatest struggles. Career and money struggles come next, followed by relationships and health. It saddens me that so many are not where they feel they deserve, or want, to be in their lives. Maybe this rings true for you too. If so, much of this, you should know, is not “your fault.” We have been raised in a society that has taught us to distrust our intuition. And it is exactly our intuition that is there to guide us. So what happens when we don’t know how to listen to it? We feel off-balance, disconnected and sad. But it doesn’t need to be like this. There is an energetic shift happening right now, and many people are awakening to their true, divine nature as spiritual beings. And you can too.

One of the easiest ways to come into who you really are is to connect with some teachings (that are designed to trigger the inner wisdom you already have, but may have forgotten) and some exercises designed to re-wire your brain and un-do any programming you’ve undergone in your life (as we all have!). This will help activate your inner essence and integrate it into your everyday “real” world – because it can feel like we live in two different worlds, the spiritual and the everyday. But it doesn’t need to be that way. In fact it shouldn’t be that way.

It can be hard to stay aligned with a high vibration (feeling good!) when life just seems to drag us down. People get irritable with each other - frustrated that things aren't working out better for them. There's a sense of injustice with the cold, with the snow, with bleak, rainy days, with being stuck in an unfulfilling job, with living paycheck to paycheck, with the chaos/stress of home life (especially if you have kids, those sweet little monsters), a country that seems (emphasis on the seems) to be going to hell in a handbasket, and just overall feelings of monotony and boredom.

It's all enough to sink into a bit of a depression, isn't it? 

I've battled with this for years. Growing up in Maine, I would dread winters and planned to get the heck out of here as soon as I could after graduating high school (I eventually came back here with glee). Even now, I sometimes struggle with the early darkness and lack of consistent sunlight affecting my wellbeing.

But I have developed some ways to manage this. Here are a few of them:

1) Give thanks for the little things - all day long...

Every morning I think of three specific things that I am grateful for - the sunlight warming my home, my joyful, healthy children, or my loving and endlessly supportive husband are three that come up a lot. This sets the tone for my day and just is a nice way to wake up. I try to make an effort to notice other things that I am grateful for throughout my day too  - a kind driver who lets me in the lane, a healthy, organic meal, the chirping of birds in my yard, or a heartfelt hug from my son. 

2) Notice what feels good, expansive and light in your chest - and do more of that. 

Today my daughter wanted to paint. Normally I would take the opportunity to do some dishes while she was painting. But this time I decided to let the dishes wait and sat down and painted with her. I noticed something happening while I was doing it. I felt a sense of ease, almost like a flow. The broad strokes of the brush moving through my hand, the swirling colors combining on the pink construction paper, and the sense of focus I had. I didn't want to stop.

There are other things that uplift us.. we just don't often take the time to notice the feeling (which allows us to raise our vibration  and align with other wonderful things out there for us!). Like watching the ducks swim in circles in a pond with the comical quacks and the rippling water, or making dinner for my kids while listening to a really awesome John Mayer song (music literally is a vibrational wave that seeps into our body to uplift our frequency - that must be why I married a musician!).

3) Go to the sun. 

Well this is an obvious one. But before you start thinking, she's talking about taking a vacation to Florida or something and I can't afford that, pause for a moment. We just went to Costa Rica basically for free (well excluding plane ticket taxes). That's right, our family of four. I put out the intention to go to Costa Rica a year ago, put it on my vision wall, talked about it, and basically made this vision a part of my unseen, yet desired, reality. it took time to manifest, and I had to do some research, but thanks to my Dad telling me about a great new credit card (which he wouldn't have if I hadn't expressed a desire to go to Costa Rica in the first place!), we went on frequent flyer miles, faith and a bit of planning.

Our negative Ego minds are always looking for reasons that we can't/shouldn't do something. Let's stop buying into that! The universe works in magical, mysterious ways. Your desired intentions (through your thoughts and actions) create a frequency more powerful than the world you see with your eyes. It's about tapping into Divine laws and using your full power as an abundant, spiritual being. Trust me on this one.

4) Focus on your breath and move your body.  

Whenever I'm feeling frustrated or down, I know that I need to go lie down and do some "mind-quieting." Get a nice guided meditation app on your phone (Calm is pretty cool.. and I happen to know of someone who has some on her podcast). You can do this in tiny moments - I like to notice my inhale and exhale while waiting in line at the grocery store, or while lying in bed with my son as he falls asleep. And if there is stuck energy in your body, moving your body through yoga or dance (hot yoga, regular yoga or expressive dance!) is an incredible way to release emotion. 

5) Talk to something higher than yourself. 

I had to work through a lot of stuff to get to this one. I was raised going to church, but quickly became disillusioned through a negative experience at one. I then became almost an atheist, until a series of experiences of death touching my life changed me. I had felt comforted, over and over, by light, and once by a Divine guide himself. I now have expanded my communication with higher powers to talk to angels (I'm on a big archangel kick right now!), to Jesus (in a Christ consciousness sort of way), and of course always to the spirit guides/guardian angels that I know are always around me. I regularly use number sequences I see to help guide me throughout my day, as well as messages that come in various forms. I even get some requests answered when it suits my highest soul purpose (found objects, parking spaces - I'm not kidding here - and bigger stuff like my living space, my son's school, etc.). I have learned to give thanks at all times to Divine sources of love, and to surrender to this in my life. I understand that even though I may believe I want something, I need to sometimes let go of it if the request doesn't suit what's best for my soul evolution. 

So how can you cope with the doldrums that everyday life sometimes brings? It's just a matter of prioritizing your happiness, taking some time to intentionally direct your energy and soul. There will always be something that seems more pressing to do - so what if you just let that thing rest, even if just for once?  I might have never painted and spent time in that joyous space with my daughter otherwise. And I still did the dishes today too.

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Rachel White

A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. 

Living In Alignment With All That Is

We are just getting back from a trip Costa Rica. I felt more aligned and at peace there over a week's time than I have in a long time (aside from moments here are there) here in the U.S.

Of course, it was a vacation. But there is something palpably different about living in other cultures like that of Costa Rica. People live more in line with the natural rhythms of the land, and just seem to enjoy life more. Working sometimes, but relaxing with friends and family a lot of the time. Less stressed and not working inside buildings or commuting in cars all day. Of course, there are aspects to living abroad (I remember this from my time in Senegal and Mexico) that are not as good as they seem, but overall there is something different there.

For many Americans, it is a battle to be aligned with our true, inner selves while here in this country. It can be hard for many to find that inner whisper when there is so much noise, so much busy-ness and so much fear being spread all the time - especially now with a new President/administration that frightens many. (This is reminiscent of September 11 - I was in Mexico then and was very glad for it.) There is a sickness in our country that has damaged so many of us. Some of us may have a sense of where the sickness comes from, but right now that doesn't matter as much. What matters is what we do with this knowledge moving forward.

So what does this mean for us Americans? Does this mean that we all need to pack up and get out of this place? That can’t be the answer for all of us. I love Maine, and mostly I love the United States as well. It is my home; my family and friends are here.

I believe that I am supposed to be here, in my home, to make the best of the blessings that I do have here (for there are many). There are many people who are suffering in the U.S., and they need help. And there are some ways for us do this right now (with two workshops coming up this weekend - on quieting the mind and manifesting your true, abundant self) and individual guidance sessions/courses).  I am connecting with many of you as we all move closer to becoming the limitless, powerful beings that we as humans were originally created to be. But even though my purpose is partially to be in the U.S., my soul thrives when it is in more peaceful, relaxed places… like Costa Rica, Ecuador, Senegal or Mexico. I feel more at one with my fellow humans and with nature. It is easier to live a life that feels more genuine to me.

So what does that mean for me personally? Do I pack up with my family and move to Costa Rica? Or at least go there some of the time? Get a plot of land, build a house and live there several months each year? My soul would be happy with that, and possibly more effective when it gets a chance to recharge in a supportive environment. (And of course with the idea of getting a place in Costa Rica part-time - my ego-based mind wonders logistically how we would make that work. But my higher self tells me that I just need to focus on the vision and follow the opportunities/connections/messages that come!)

I had the great fortune to connect with some wise and spiritually conscious expats while in Costa Rica, not by coincidence. I know that we are finding each other for a reason, building toward a new way of living as part of the paradigm shift. And I feel that, for Chris and our family (our 5-year-old proclaimed that he LOVES Costa Rica!), that means that we live in a place where we share food and joy with other families, on a regular basis.

In our vision, we live in alignment with the land and with the animals –we have chickens, grow fresh fruit and vegetables and share food with our neighbors. Our children run free – playing with other nearby children and in green, lush open spaces, exploring and creatively learning together and with the support of loving adults. Our children speak at least several languages and play music, sing and create art and other beautiful things. I talk, meditate and share with others in groups around how to become the full expressions of our true, spiritual selves to bring about truth, abundance and joy in our everyday lives as human beings. We are outside under the stars, lying in the grass, rolling in the hills, swimming in the streams.  We are one with nature and with the Spirits of the Earth. We are truly in our essence.

But right now we are here, in Maine. Can this vision be brought to fruition in this place? Yes, I believe that it can. The cold makes the being-outdoors-all-the-time part a little tricky, but it can be worked with (greenhouses, fires, warm clothing and being near other people!).

In the meantime, how can I integrate what I experienced in Costa Rica into my everyday life – so it’s not just another vacation that I think back fondly upon and wish I were there when I’m sitting in front of my computer? I will let you know. First I will work on visualizing and manifesting .. and then share what worked for me with you if you're interested. That is what I do. It’s not easy all the time.. I still battle with my negative-ego mind. But we came here to learn lessons as souls, and we set out a path in our lives for us to do that – a series of challenges to which we choose how to respond.

Our future lies in our connecting with each other and with nature. With making things with our hands. With using our voices to uplift our spirits. With touching and loving animals, birds and plants. With embracing children and allowing them to be free and to teach us as much as we teach them. There are people doing this already here and there, in some incredible ways, but we need more of it. We must find the courage to leave what doesn’t feel good to us anymore, to trust in the Universe and in Divine sources of love to guide and protect us and to simply just relax, slow down, and listen to our bodies and souls. I am working on this right now. Will you join me? (Seriously, if you want to, let me know.. there are many ways we can all move toward this beautiful future.) 

With the light of hope, abundance, community, joy and connection...

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Rachel White

A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine. A spiritual counselor, intuitive coach and writer, Rachel Horton White founded Soulful Work Intuitive Consulting in January 2016 to support those searching for true purpose and fulfillment in their lives. Along with individual coaching, Rachel shares in the world a podcast of interviews with inspirational figures and guided meditations, a blog of musings, workshops with private groups and in workplaces, and interactive online courses. She taught American Government at a local community college in Portland, Maine, and was an English as a Foreign Language (EFL) teacher in Guadalajara, Mexico. With a Bachelor’s Degree in English from Wellesley College and a Master’s Degree in Public Administration from the University of Georgia, Rachel claims her true education came from studying abroad in Dakar, Senegal in college. Rachel is also an amateur dream analyzer, piano player, traveler, outdoor enthusiast, Tarot reader, yogi, writer/painter-of-sorts. Her most important and blessed roles of all came in her early 30s, as wife to an incredible man and mother, guide and pal to two energetic, bright-eyed, young children in Portland, Maine.