Think of a wonderful thought
Any merry little thought...
There's a Never Land waiting for you
Where all your happy dreams come true...
When there's a smile in your heart
There's no better time to start
Think of all the joy you'll find
When you leave the world behind
And bid your cares goodbye
You can fly, you can fly!
You can fly, you can fly!
You can fly!
This song from Peter Pan popped up in our Spotify mix the other day... And as I listened, the words spoke to me in a way they had never before (even though I'd heard it about 100 times). Did it ever occur to you, too, that throughout popular culture there are allusions, messages, signs meant just for us? Maybe it's just me noticing it, but they are there. It's just that in the midst of our inner chatter, our spinning minds, and the stress that weighs on us, we usually don't notice these things very much.
Now that I'm in a new way of being/thinking/operating (and no longer in a draining job). I notice things that I hadn't noticed before. As I took my dog and my 1 year old girl for a walk this morning, the ocean looked so blue ... the stone work on the buildings in downtown Portland was so intricate... and the energy of the morning routine in the Old Port was almost soothing. The smells of coffee, the sounds of construction, the unloading of boxes going to various restaurants. I noticed people getting ready for their days and how it all seemed to work so well, flow so nicely together.
One year ago, if I had done this very same thing, I would likely not have noticed these things. Probably I would have been worried about being late for work, or thinking about the meeting I was going to have later on, or mulling over an email that I was still stewing about.
My work in my new initiative has also evolved. At one point, I was focused on supporting people in coping with their jobs in their workplaces. That is fine and good.. but is that REALLY as good at it gets? How many people go around thinking... "wow, my dream in life is to become a middle manager at Someone Else's company." Rather, most of us end up in jobs like this by default. Not by design. Tim Ferriss talks about the importance of pursuing "unrealistic dreams" by dreaming big, and I mean BIG. BIG enough to motivate us and to start by taking small steps.
I know, some of you are thinking... "that's great Rachel, but there's no way I'm just going to quit my job and start a business like you did." And you don't have to! Maybe your job is just fine for you. But maybe, maybe, maybe, you know deep down there is something else out there. It usually is just fear that holds us back... fear of the uncertainty ahead. So we rationalize, "it's not that bad," "I'm lucky to have this..", "I need to pay the bills," "This is reality." These are all ways, I've learned, of us putting off something that deep down we are actually afraid of. And it's totally normal! I STILL feel fear, believe me. Even the most accomplished people still feel fear (soon I'll be posting my interview with Jeff Lieberman - MIT physicist, artist, musician, former host of Discovery Channel's Time Warp who talks about the fear he still feels every day even while creating huge art installations). The difference is that these people feel the fear, and just walk right into it. My wise former coach used to say that "when you're feeling fear, you're doing something right."
And when we feel the fear... it is then that we can truly fly (by thinking happy thoughts of course).
What are you doing that brings about fear? The good kind of exhilarating fear?