It can be challenging to evolve into our true soul purposes in this world. We fall into comparing ourselves to others and to what we "should" be doing so often. This is a trap that can be very easy to fall into.
It has taken me several years to uncover how to flow with what is right for me and to resist the temptation to worry that I'm "doing it wrong" or that I should be doing something that someone else is doing.
Here's what I do. I am by no means perfect, but these combination of things seems to help:
1) quiet my mind every day, even if just for a few minutes (I have two young kids after all)
2) talk to my higher guidance on a regular basis
3) feel light in my heart and body to clear and release negative energy
4) find gratitude (writing it down!) for things in my life on a regular basis
5) visualize and write down what I want, but accept that if it doesn't happen, that I will still be okay
6) constantly monitor my thoughts for the "shoulds/can'ts/don'ts" and push them aside
7) spend time every day outdoors in nature
8) try to have fun when I can
9) help others and donate to those in need
10) recognize, trust, and open to receive abundance in many forms
In my work with clients, I teach these techniques as well as approaches that seem right for that particular person.
My intuition is a foundation of my work with clients, I use a lot of writing tools and action steps. While my intuition is guiding me in every aspect of this work, I share the tools that I have personally used in my life (and that have helped me).
I try to ensure that my intuitive right brain, guided by my Higher Self, is in charge. My left brain, Ego-based side, is simply following my Higher Self. This means that I adapt my words and tone depending on the client and what s/he is open to receiving and hearing.
I have learned not to assume, however, that I know what is best for the client. When I am talking with the client, I am tapped in to my intuition, but as I am human, my Ego is also present.
I listen carefully to the client’s words and read their energy to guide me as to what tool and/or action steps to suggest or whether to simply be quiet and let them share/process what is coming up for them. I ask Spirit to help work with me, which takes the pressure off my feeling that I have to “do it right.” I believe that when we are guided by love and pure intents of goodwill, that we cannot do harm.
This means that I have gotten very comfortable with uncertainty. I have learned that there is no “recipe” that can be easily applied to every client.
However, I use the Soulful Work Framework model I created which I believe universally applies to every person. This framework is based in a foundation of meditation/quieting the mind, creating a vision of future self, identifying the protective ego, separating from the protective ego, working with higher guidance/developing intuition and taking risks and action steps – all the tools of writing exercises, verbal processing, visualizations, hypnotherapy, guided imagery and intuitive readings. I integrate each of these modalities into coaching sessions, and give the clients options to do hypnotherapy and guided imagery, for instance.
I usually offer short guided meditations and suggest that each person receive an Akashic Records reading, which helps give us soul-level information about their purpose and past lives.
The Soulful Work framework does not apply in a linear fashion to each client. Some people are not ready to create a vision of their ideal future and prefer to dive into the negative Ego. Others are the opposite.
It is a beautiful process and I feel blessed every day to do this work with the amazingly bright souls that are the people that trust me enough to help them in some way.