Did you know that about 80% of our thoughts are negative, but that we don’t have to listen to them?
I used to believe all of the thoughts that would run through my mind. Some of these thoughts were very self-defeating and made me feel bad about myself. Then one day, I realized that “I am not my thoughts.” I learned that there is something called the Ego self (Inner Critic) that is an aspect of who we all are, and it often tells us mean things about ourselves. This concept changed my life.
You don’t need to suffer like this anymore. It’s time to stop allowing this false chatter or mean little self-talk to dominate your days anymore and stop holding you back from what you long to do and who you long to be.
One of the most incredible tools I have ever encountered is that of the Inner Critic writing exercise. When I did this with my former coach, I instantly felt a huge energetic weight lifted. It was a moment I will never forget.
This experience, simply here called “Call Out the Inner Critic Workshop,” is one that I rarely do outside of private coaching. I am sharing it with you now in the hopes that you might get to feel the transformation that I did.
The Inner Critic will tell us why we’re not good enough, why we are never going to make enough money, that we are not likable, that we should worry about what people will think, why we should do something or shouldn’t do something else. It is the negative aspect of our Ego self, a falsely-created identity that society has created. It usually is created in childhood by something an adult (usually) says or does that has a lasting effect. Sometimes it is an innocuous comment, sometimes it is serious trauma.
As we grow older and go out into the world, this negative Ego self grows stronger and evolves into what are sometimes called the voices of what I like to call the Inner Critic. There are actually many different parts of who we are, and some of these aspects of our personalities are actually based on what we learned from other people in our lives.
When we take the time to dissect these Inner Critics and identify when they come out in our lives (usually when we’re pushing ourselves outside of our comfort zones since the Ego really doesn’t like that), we can see them for what they are.
Here’s the amazing part: a writing exercise that personifies the strongest Inner Critic voice as if it were a person and then separates from it. If there’s time, you may be able to work through even another Inner Critic voice!
In this workshop, you’ll receive detailed teachings from me about this negative Ego self (Inner Critic), as opposed to the Higher Self (our soul), identify it within you, and then separate from it.
Then, we will:
- Sit quietly and do some personal reflection
- Energetically feel and separate from the Inner Critic in a guided meditation
- Write about what our Inner Critic is saying to us
- Personify the Inner Critic
- Separate from the Inner Critic
- Share our writings with a partner (optional)
- Enjoy some tea and snacks (we still need to have some fun, after all!)
You will likely after this workshop feel:
- Experience a very real shifting in your life
- Potentially ready to make a significant life change
- Capable to take steps toward achieving a goal, a new way of living, or anything you’ve been long wanting to do
I’ve done this exercise on my own about 5-6 times and have identified that many Inner Critic voices hanging out in there. Different ones come at various times in our lives, depending on what we are doing.
IMPORTANT NOTE: please contact me (firstname.lastname@example.org) before registering for this workshop as I would like to ask each attendee questions ahead of time to ensure this is the right fit for you. This is a deeply emotional experience that can be difficult to work through, especially in a group. Be aware that negative Ego voice will vigorously resist this process and will probably come up with reasons for you not to go, right up until the last minute! Be not afraid. I will create a safe space for you to process a part of you that has been with you for a very long time that you are choosing no longer to carry with you. And you do not need to share publicly with the group if you are not comfortable. I will take time to work with you individually. But you are encouraged to openly and verbally process with the group if possible to help release the Inner Critic. Each member will be asked to keep all that is shared confidential and private.
Sunday, March 31st at Sage Wellness , 980 Forest Avenue, Suite 204 in Portland, Maine. 3-5:30 pm, $65/person ($55 for Soulful Work Community members). Space is limited to 12 people, so sign up before it fills up (this is a popular workshop)! Please register in advance here. Take-home handouts provided along with tea and snacks!