When It Gets To Be Too Much (We Can Ask for Soul Growth to Slow Down)

These are intense times. We continue to be faced with an accelerated soul growth curve. Soul lessons being thrown at us left and right.

It can be maddening, right?

Enough, already! Slow it down! We want to scream. I don’t want to work to do the inner work anymore!

Yet, situations keep arising where we are being asked to continuously grow in our quest for self-actualization.

We are always learning and growing as humans. And we are placed in situations where we continuously learn.

I had an experience the other day where someone who I collaborate with in our homeschooling network said something to me that hurt. I didn’t expect it and it bothered me for a few days. It was a criticism. I knew that there was something I was meant to be learning from the comment, yet I was also bruised. I felt wronged. Yet I also felt that part of what this person said was true, and that I should learn from it.

My Ego wanted to go into full scale overdrive and tell me that I was “bad/doing it wrong/not enough.” I knew that those thoughts were not helpful, so I did my best to clear them. Yet, I was still in shock that I was blindsided. It felt like a low blow.

I have done some energy clearing around it. I am open to the lessons that come from the experience (and I believe there's some past life trauma to be healed as well).

Sometimes the people that challenge us the most can be our greatest teachers. (Even though the Ego really doesn’t like being wrong.)

The last thing we want to do when we are given feedback on how to improve (which sometimes is delivered nicely and sometimes not so nicely) is beat ourselves up for not being _________ enough.

We must be aware of our thoughts when it comes to judging and evaluating ourselves. We beat ourselves up by saying things to ourselves that we would never say to a child.

Instead, we can remember:

We are doing the best we can.

This is a mantra I would suggest that you go and write down and say over and over: I am doing the best I can.

(By the way, you actually can ask your sources of higher guidance to slow down the soul learnings a bit. Remember, that at some level, your Higher Self likely asked for this in your soul contract, but of course contracts can be changed!)

One way we can continue to learn and grow (to become the best versions of ourselves) yet also be kind, loving and gentle to ourselves is to treat ourselves like we would a child.

We would never say to a child, “You’re not good enough. You’re screwing everything up.”

We might say instead, “I love you. You’re a wonderful person with such a big heart. What did you learn from that situation? Maybe you wished it had gone better, but you can always try again next time.”

Here are a few more ideas to help clear the Ego triggers, from my recent Tools for the Awakening Soul book that I share with clients and try to practice myself:

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Relaxation Techniques to Transmute Triggers

The following are some exercises you can do to help bring in calm the next time you feel an emotional trigger coming on. First do these relaxation techniques when you’re already in a calm state. Try getting your heart rate up by running up the stairs or doing jumping jacks to see if you can relax on cue. This helps to mimic an actual triggered emotional state - practice for a real-life stressful situation!

Body Scan and Breath:
Scan your body for tension and try to relax any body parts that feel tight. Take a few deep breaths. Inhale to the count of 4 through your nose and exhale to the count of 8 through your mouth, as if you were blowing a bubble. Now, focus on the natural movement of your breath for a few minutes. Then, continue to breathe, saying silently to yourself Breathe in as you inhale and Relax as you exhale. Soften all of the muscles in your body from head to toe. Imagine tension/stress flowing out with your exhale and peace and calm flowing in with your inhale.

Change the Channel for Better Thoughts:
Think about the content of your current negative thoughts/feelings/beliefs. Imagine that these thoughts are broadcasting on a particular channel on TV. What are you watching on this current channel (something scary/unpleasant)?

Visualize yourself turning the knob or using the remote control to change the channel of your thoughts to a positive, calming TV show. What would you watch on this channel? Describe what’s on this channel in detail.

Anytime negative thoughts recur, remind yourself to change the channel and switch to the positive, calming one! Notice what happens in your mood when you do this. Do you need more than one type of positive channel or is one enough?

Visualize the Best Possible Outcome:
Visualize yourself handling stressful/anxiety-producing situations with ease. This is what Olympic athletes do to program a potential blueprint into reality. See yourself breathing deeply and calming yourself. Imagine how proud you would feel handling the situation well. Try using a few affirmations like: I can handle this. I am in control. I am doing the best I can. I can relax when I choose. I’m filled with peace, calm and ease. I am changing the channel of my thoughts.

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Each situation we are presented with in our lives gives us an opportunity to learn and grow. So much is coming up to be cleared around our traumas, limiting beliefs, fears and self-defeating thoughts.

Often, we experience the opposite of something we are learning (we learn about freedom by living through oppression; we learn to protect ourselves by experiencing something in which we didn't feel protected.)

The Ego work can be hard. But when we have support to move through it, and the tools to reframe our thoughts, to quiet our minds and to move forward, we step more fully into our light. We move into 5D consciousness more and more.

The Into the Light book class is a fabulous way to do that. There's just 2 spots left! Class registration will be closing this Wednesday, September 28th (class starts Thursday, September 29th)!